“If your brothers are part of you and you blame them for your deprivation, you are blaming yourself. And you cannot blame yourself without blaming them. That is why blame must be undone, not seen elsewhere. Lay it to yourself and you cannot know yourself, for only the ego blames at all. Self-blame is therefore ego identification, and as much an ego defense as blaming others.” A Course in Miracles, Text, p.201.
Blame seems to be an automatic response in this world. We all do it a lot of the time. For instance, if a train is delayed and we miss an important appointment, we may blame the train driver; if something needs to be fixed and the workman who promised to come and repair it fails to show up, we can’t help but blame him. If we had a difficult childhood we will, most probably, blame our parents, and if we go for a job interview and don’t get the job, we may blame ourselves or those who were interviewing us. If the traffic is bad, we may blame those we think are responsible for it. If the economy is not in a good shape, we will blame the politicians and economists who are in charge. It goes on and on and on.
Why do we blame others or ourselves? Maybe because it has become a habit. Maybe because it makes us feel better about ourselves. It is a typical reaction of the ego. But blame is a form of attack and Jesus warns us in ACIM: “You cannot enter God’s Presence if you attack His Son.” ACIM, T201. And we are all His Son.
In A Course of Love, Jesus gives us the antidote to blame. “All you need do is catch yourself in the act of placing blame and say to yourself: ‘I was placing blame again and I choose to do so no longer.’ You need not spend any more time with blame than this…I ask you simply to take the thought of it from your mind as quickly as it enters.” ACOL. T3:10:4. It takes great vigilance, self-observation and mind-watching but that’s what is needed if we want to awaken from the dream of separation.
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